I spent 3 days this week with a leadership group looking at how they could show up as even better leaders. While the conversation for the first 2.5 days had been flowing and open, as soon as we started on the conversation of how they needed to change the conversation ran aground.
Three objections were bandied around:
Objection no 1: “It is them that has to do the changing. “ These folk clung to the idea that change is for other people – usually their bosses or their subordinates …obviously they were not required to change and had no responsibility to do so.
Objection no 2: “I’m not that sort of leader”. This group carried a notion that leaders are some sort of mythic heroic figure, blessed with extraordinary characteristics and abilities that they weren’t lucky enough to have. Leadership was therefore something remote and extraordinary rather than the everyday stuff of getting people to follow you.
Objection no 3: “I can’t help it – this is the way I’ve always been” This group believed that behaviour was not a choice, and that their behaviour was a fixed part of their personality which they obviously couldn’t change or address.
Net result … the status quo unless these beliefs are challenged. Anyone else seen these in action?